So, my significant other asked that I write her a song/poem. Problem is whenever I try it ends up sounding cheesy three words in; so I decided to write a proper piece instead. Enjoy:
Is love for everyone? I think not. People always say "you just haven't found the right one yet." I say rubbish. Don't get me wrong, I believe in love, I really I do. I did, after all, just propose to the love of my life a few months ago.
I just happen to be of the view that love is more than just a feeling. I think love is more than just that flutter in your chest everytime she smiles or your heart skipping a beat when he looks at you. Yes, those things can be an indication of love, or the potential thereof at the very least, but love they are not.
I think, and feel free to disagree here, that love is a choice you make. To love or not to love - you choose. People don't sleep around because they got tempted or because they haven't found the right one yet. They do so because they haven't found the one they feel is worthy of being faithful and committed to. The one they can stay in with over the weekend and not feel as if the world has passed them by.
I got lucky. I loved, and still love my best friend. I knew on the day I first saw her that she would be my wife, and I took a decision that day that she was the one. I got to know her and she got to know me before the thought of being a couple ever crossed her mind. Even when I told her how I felt about her the first time round, she told me she couldn't see us as more than just friends. Yes, I was in the dreaded "friend-zone". The horror!
Long story short, she came around to the idea of "us" and we started dating. It was an incredible experience because we had and still have incredible chemistry, as if our eyes just met from across the room this afternoon. While I am grateful for this, just like any other couple we have our off days where our timing just doesn't sync up and we ask ourselves "who the hell stole our science kit?" - the chemistry just disappears.
It's at these moments where true love, the type of love that you choose to have, really shows. That fairytale, movie love where people are happy all the time and get along ALL THE TIME cuts out from time to time, and if yours wasn't a chosen love it can be all too easy to decide "I don't need this in my life" and up and leave - certainly a lot easier than staying with the person, making it work and making your love and mutual respect stronger.
I say don't just be in love, because just as quickly as you fell into love, you can fall out. When you find that person who's worth it, choose to love them. Choose to adore and care for them, to be faithful, committed and there for them always. Unconditionally. Absolutely.
I'm really happy I did.
When da foolishness of a new attraction fades and da high of lust is gone, commitment is what makes love worth loving. 2know u hav and are a shoulder 2lean on. 2hope in a future da hails from da present choice 2be da one. Love is a responsibility. Its a risk. Its an investment. And so much more. Like anything worth holding on 2. Decisionmaking is critical and makes it sooo beautiful... Wishing u da best, da rest and success. gone, commitment is what makes love worth loving. 2know u hav and are a shoulder 2lean on. 2hope in a future da hails from da present choice 2be da one. Love is a responsibility. Its a risk. Its an investment. And so much more. Like anything worth holding on 2. Decisionmaking is critical and makes it sooo beautiful... Wishing u da best, da rest and success.
ReplyDeleteon this I have to disagree. personally I think that you don't just pick and choose who you fall for. every person has someone out there whose made for them.
ReplyDeletelike for example, with you and your love (fiancée), you guys started off as friends, and its not like you were on some "I think I'm gonna love her and marry her" tip, no, you however, happened to know from the very first day, that you would marry her.
Love isn't chosen, i think the most we do, is pick the qualities that draw us to our soulmate.
and whose to say its gonna last forever, because for all we know, the bond between two people in love could be something that's made to last for a year or whatever...